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New Food Pyramid Is Aimed at Kids

Tuesday, December 16th, 2008

A new federal government food pyramid for preschoolers may help parents deal with picky eating problems, especially as youngsters are introduced to new kinds of foods during Christmas meals.

The MyPyramid for Preschoolers interactive Web site (MyPyramid.gov) offers individualized nutrition guidance to meet the needs of children aged 2 to 5, according to the U.S. Department of Agricultures Center for Nutrition Policy and Promotion (CNPP).

“This is a great tool for all parents of preschoolers but particularly those of finicky eaters. It’s loaded with great ideas and suggestions for families so they can help their kids eat a more varied and nutritious diet. What I find most useful is how to talk with kids about what to eat and tips on how to have fun with food around the dinner table,” CNPP executive director Brian Wansink said in an USDA news release.

Among the MyPyramid for Preschoolers tips to help parents deal with finicky eaters:

  • Set reasonable limits for the start and end of a meal. When you see your child is no longer interested in the meal, excuse the child from the table.
  • Encourage your child to try new foods, but don’t lecture or force your child to eat.
  • Talk about fun and happy things as part of an overall effort to make mealtimes stress-free.
  • Cook together. Encourage preschoolers to help you prepare meals and snacks.

Other features on the MyPyramid for Preschoolers Web site include:

  • MyPyramid Plan, where users can create a customized eating plan.
  • Growth During the Preschool Years answers parents’ questions about their children’s growth.
  • Developing Healthy Eating Habits explains to parents and caregivers how to help children develop healthy eating habits.
  • Physical Activity outlines how to encourage preschoolers to be active.
  • Food Safety.
  • Sample Meal and Snack Patterns help translate the MyPyramid Plan into individual meals and snacks.

“In addition to the broad spectrum of topic areas covered on this site, are the interactive components, including a customized MyPyramid Plan that can be printed and posted on the refrigerator door,” Wansink said.

Molding the artist in your child

Thursday, November 27th, 2008

Children are becoming multi-talented these days and they are leaving no stone unturned to achieve and excel in whatever fields that is available to them. Do you see your kid drawing out indecipherable pictures of whatever it sees? Are you looking at shops or places where you can pick quality kids art supplies that will help mold the budding artist? You need to look for the right kind of easels and painting brushes that form a primary part of your child’s art supplies and you need to take special care to look at the height of the easels as this will be a contributing factor deciding the quality of the art form. There are a lot of places where these quality kids art supplies are found and these can purchased at good rates even over the internet. While parents purchase art supplies like easels, care has to be taken to ensure that they purchase the ones best suited to their children’s requirements. These art supplies should augment and enhance the skills of the little ones and prove to be handy for these budding artists to bring to limelight the talents that God has blessed them with and the same that their parents have passionately allowed them to pursue.

How do you get a child to bed without fears?

Wednesday, August 6th, 2008


My daughter is 4 years old. We have moved her to a twin bed and for some reason she is scared of it. We put the side rails on it to make her feel as if she wont fall off but for some reason she is afraid that she will fall under the mattress which is on the floor right now with the side rail so it wouldn’t be a far fall but she thinks the mattress will go on top of her. She is also afraid of monsters suddenly which I really don’t know where that came from either. I don’t know what to do she keeps freaking out everytime we put her to bed and it takes her 3 hours to finally calm down to fall asleep. We have never had sleep issues with her until now and My husband and I are at our whits end with her. We try to calm her down we read stories, we sing songs and we also just lay there quietly in hopes that she would too but nothing works. I want to make it a positive experience for her and we have tried a lot of different things and nothing is working.

 

Fear is a weird thing with kids. We’re the type of parents who try to make it like monsters are friends, not foes! My daughter isn’t afraid of monsters anymore because we have her thinking that she is the one they are afraid of. I think the best way to handle fears with children is to chill out, let her see that you are being chill and confident about it, and bring silliness & levity. And do a lot of storytelling.

About a week ago, our 3.5 year old started freaking out about the lights with the smoke detector. She kept crying, saying they were very, very scary. We went around the house with her and showed her how each room had them, and then we personified them and made up little stories about them, why they were there, etc. And that really calmed her down about it and now she says goodnight to the smoke detectors before bed.

I guess if my daughter had a renewed fear of monsters, I’d make up a story with her, let her name the monster and somehow make it into a sympathetic (and weak) character that goes home and cries a lot or something.

I know it probably sounds kind of silly, BUT … it is her imagination that is making her scared in the first place. So, if you can twist it around and work on implanting a more positive angle, it will soothe her.

For the bed thing, I’d probably lay down some stuffed animals or dolls on the floor with blankets near the spot she’s afraid of, and make up a little “bed” for them and let her tuck them in or something. That would show that it’s not a place to be scared of if they’re doing it.

Also let her keep her door open and keep a good night light on. ;)

What should I do about a reluctant birthfather’s rejection?

Wednesday, August 6th, 2008


I’m a birth mother who has recently been contacted by the child I placed for adoption 22 years ago. I’m very happy he contacted me. He wanted information on his father, but when I called his father, he pretty much cut me off and hung up on me. How should I manage this with my son? His adoptive father had walked out on him as well, and now he’s got a 2d rejection.

 

Firstly, just ignore the responder who was so rude and called you “just a birthmother.” That’s ridiculous. He obviously just doesn’t get it. Oh well, some things are just above some peoples’ heads.

Congratulations on your reunion! I’ve been reunited with my first father and family for 7 years, quite happily. Unfortunately, my first mother passed away before we could reunite, but I do keep in touch with family on her side.

Sometimes first parents and adopted persons are really caught off guard at when initially contacted. He may need time to think it over. You can give your son the information, let him know what happened, and just continue to be supportive in that area.

Another think you may think about doing is writing a quick letter to his first father. Since he hung up so abruptly, you may not have gotten to say everything you wanted. He may or may not respond, but you’ll know that you shared what you needed to share.

It could be that his first father really doesn’t contact — at least at this point. Sometimes relatives separated by adoption end up feeling that way.

Again, congratulations on your reunion with you son! That’s wonderful.

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I guess since that his adopted parent walked out on him, once again it disproves the “better life for the child myth”. I guess an a-child couldn’t hold another family together.

I would just be honest with your son, give him the facts as you “know” it and give him contact information if he wants it. His father may of hung up on you because he doesn’t want to talk to you but who knows for sure.

Unfortunately, in our society today men have been let down by poor parental skills. Look at how many are being chased down for child support. I would point that out to your son as well.
Overall there’s not much you can say or do but just be honest and continue to be there for your son.

What age do you give an infant milk?

Thursday, July 24th, 2008


my baby is almost 12 months on aug 7 when is it good to give him milk and how much a day

 

You can give him milk when he turns 12 months. He’ll need about 500mls ( 1 pint ) of milk a day, and it should be full fat ( whole milk ) as toddlers under 2 need the fat for brain development. After 2 he can have whatever milk you drink!

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Generally it is not recommended that you give milk until they turn a year old and then it is just a few ounces a day, like whatever they will drink at breakfast. Breast milk or formula is much more nutritious and you want to give your child the most nutritious thing. Whatever you feed a baby takes away from the nutrition of the breast milk, which should make up a majority of their diet until they turn one. Plus if you introduce milk too soon they can develop a milk allergy.

Is spanking the best behavior management tool ever invented?

Wednesday, July 9th, 2008


I’m totally for corporal punishment. Not beating…. but spanking. There is a difference folks!

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No, all children are different and respond differently to various punishments. Spanking, like other forms of punishment, is only effective when done properly. The child must know it IS a form of punishment, it must be clear to the child what he/she is being punished for, and it must never be done abusively or with anger. Spanking can be very effective, but beating a child rarely is.

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behavioral management varies by individual. sometimes “time outs”, restrictions, grounding, additional chores, or other forms of punishment may be more effective than spankings. it depends on the child, the improper “act” and the situation. keep in mind that every behavior must have a positive and a negative (consequence) effect.

good luck with what you were looking for.

p.s. i rarely have to spank my children as other disciplinary avenues typically work.

Texas Behavior Support Initiative certified….as well as a dozen other certifications on behavior management with general ed and special needs children…as well as being a mother of FOUR boys.

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I think it entirely depends on the child. My daughter doesn’t respond to punishment. We have to remind her what reward she’s working towards in order to elicit good behavior, telling her that we’ll punish her if she misbehaves never ever works. It has taken us 4 long years to realize this - However, I know other parents who use a judicious spanking to make their point (I’m talking about once in a great while, not every day) and they swear by it. We are all individuals, and there is no behavior management tool that works for everyone - because that would just be way too easy, right? :)

40 weeks, regular but painless contractions-is this labor?

Thursday, July 3rd, 2008


The contractions are so close together it’s like my stomach is rock hard all the time. I’ve tried walking, lying down and drinking water but it’s still there. I tried timing them, they are like 5-10 mins apart but there are no pain. My water hasn’t broken, I haven’t lost my mucus plug or had any bloody show so I feel silly to go to the hospital right now (it’s 2am). Earlier (9pm) I was nesting quite madly, vacuuming and reorganizing my wardrobe- but that’s it. I haven’t had diarrhea or nausea and I’ve had worst BH contractions than tonight’s, complete with diarrhea, indigestion, etc. Is it possible I’m going into labor with painless contractions, has anybody experienced this? This is my first pregnancy.

Designer Maternity Fashion is Worth the Price Tag

Thursday, February 21st, 2008

When you become pregnant you may be surprised at how expensive designer maternity clothes can cost. Of course, when you buy designer maternity fashion you will look absolutely gorgeous and stylish. That is because designer maternity clothes use special fabrics and designs to really make you look good. But, you may be wondering if the price tag is really worth the clothes you are buying. Well, that really depends. In general, most women choose to spend the money on designer maternity clothes when it is for a special occasion. That includes a big business meeting, a wedding, cocktail party, or other big event. But, in general, women find that the price tag is a little too high for clothes they will only wear for a brief period of time. And, many women claim that they really can’t tell a big difference in designer maternity jeans and affordable maternity jeans. Of course, your budget will play a big role in how much you can afford to spend on maternity clothes. But, overall, you won’t want to spend too much simply because these are clothes that you will wear for a few short months and that is it!

How to plan my four year old’s party?

Wednesday, October 3rd, 2007

Arts and crafts are always fun. I used to work at a daycare with children of all ages, and no matter how old they were, they loved doing crafts. The girls could make bubble paper: all you need is dish soap, food coloring, straws, tin cake pans, and plain paper. Fill the pans about 1″ deep with water, add a few drops of soap and whatever colors you wish to use, then mix it up. Give each of the girls a straw and let them blow bubbles in the pan of colored water. Next, all they have to do is lay the paper on the bubbles. Once they have created the patterns and color combinations they like, just set them aside to dry. (Be sure to write their name on it so each girl gets the one she made.)

They could also make jewelry out of pasta. They can just paint the pasta (any pasta with a hole in it; like macaroni) then thread yarn through them when they dry.

You could have them make carmel popcorn balls or marshmellow squares to enjoy while they watch a movie, like Chicken Little.

They could also play games like simon says or mother may I. And of course, if they like stories, they could sit in a circle and one girl would start a story then “pass” it on to the next girl, and so on until all of the girls have contributed to creating an enitire story. (The daycare kids loved that one!)

Be creative and hang in there! You’ll do just fine!